This is not surprising. Human beings are naturally judgmental. The longer we live-the more we learn about what our flaws are-and-the consequence of revealing them.
So how long is appropriate to wait before releasing this deep dark closet of flaws on a friend/lover/roommate/co-worker??
I can speak from personal experience that it's deeply exposing to reveal things about your personality that are less than flattering! More than one person has run screaming the other direction and never looked back.
Not unlike most things we try to hide, flaws creep out at unexpected times... moments when you're run down/sick/nervous and frustrated. There's no grabbing it, throwing it back in the closet, giggling and saying "oh that... that was nothing...just forget that happened." Once the flaw's out, it's not forgotten.
Any thoughts internet readers?? Let's have a discussion.
Flaws are apart of what makes us who we are, and revealing them either alienates you from the other person or brings you both closer. We can either live with and accept someone for who they are... or say "sorry, that's a deal breaker."
What makes it worth it?
As much as the pain of rejection stings, the euphoria of being accepted for the things that you are most insecure about is one of the best feelings I have ever experienced. There's a sense of security in finding a person who isn't deterred by your deepest felt flaws. You can be sick and grumpy, tired and frustrated and they will still be there for you.
We're all flawed... but we don't all accept each other for who we are.